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Hello ~
Yes, the newsletter looks a little different and is a little
late. My computer is having a hard time thinking (too much
eggnog, I'm sure) and I couldn't wait another minute to get
my message out this week. It's the last issue of the year!
This past weekend I was with my children and grandchildren.
Everyone is healthy and happy. My weary traveling daughter
is home from her world-wide trip and spent the weekend with
me learning to make pie crust and to knit. (Think she might
be getting a little domesticated? NAH)
Being around the ones I love completes me. I feel blessed.
I hope you have the opportunity to connect with someone you
care about this holiday season. Sometimes all it takes is
to be "willing to."
I had a conversation with a sibling (via e-mail) about a mutual
friend who is an amazing person to be with. We decided she
is a person who is "willing to." By that I mean she 's willing
to self-examine, willing to reach out, willing to go the extra
mile, willing to stretch her limits. It's so affirming to
be around her, and it's clear that she lives a life that is
in alignment with her values.
It makes me wonder what I'm "willing to." Am I willing to
admit I'm wrong? Am I willing to do the hard thing first?
When it comes to your career or your life, what are you "willing
to"? I'm going to talk more about "willing to" in my article
below.
The upcoming New Year is a good time to begin new habits and
to make your "willing to" committments a reality. If you want
help defining what that might look like, or need accountability
in getting it done, please contact me. My expertise is helping
people process through change. Having a partner through this
process can really make a difference!
And so finally, the holiday season is upon us and I want to
end my note by wishing you the very happiest of holidays and
a peaceful and powerful new year.
Many blessings to you,
Debra |
| To a Daughter Leaving Home
by Linda Pastan
When I taught you
at eight to ride
a bicycle, loping along
beside you
as you wobbled away
on two round wheels,
my own mouth rounding
in surprise when you pulled
ahead down the curved
path of the park,
I kept waiting
for the thud
of your crash as I
sprinted to catch up,
while you grew
smaller, more breakable
with distance,
pumping, pumping
for your life, screaming
with laughter,
the hair flapping
behind you like a
handkerchief waving
goodbye. |
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Willing to
All of us want things to be different, yet we are not willing
to be different ourselves. If only "they" could do things my way,
if only "things" were different. Sounds petulant and whiny, doesn't
it? You know very well that is a self-defeating attitude. The
only thing we can change is ourselves. But how do you do that
- what does it mean?
Our reactions and habits have been with us a long time - all our
lives. We are very comfortable with how we respond to situations,
even though we may not like the outcomes.
So here's a revolutionary thought. What if we didn't have to change
to make the outcomes different, but only to be "willing to" change?
Willing to listen, willing to consider, willing to open up to
other possibilities. You're not really committing to DOing anything,
you're only committing to BEing different. You now have an attitude
of "willing to."
How do you think it would impact your life? Your career? Your
relationships?
If you are willing to listen to someone that drives you crazy,
what impact do you think that might have? If you are willing to
look at your own actions from a different viewpoint, what impact
do you think that might have?
Being "willing to" is a powerful way to invite change. When you
are "willing to," it's more than just saying the words; being
"willing to" has an element of action behind it. It creates powerful
forces in your life.
I challenge you in the upcoming New Year to commit to being "willing
to." It might mean behaving in a different way, or listening at
a different level, or taking care of yourself in a new way. All
you need to do is be "willing to."
Please let me know how it goes for you! I'm willing to listen
deeply and to support your commitment. to change.
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© 2004 Debra DeVilbiss. All rights reserved.
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